Dating Safety Do’s & Don’ts
Everytime we turn on the news I feel like there is a new story about someone who was taken advantage of at a party or on a date. With internet dating and apps becoming more and more popular, you rarely know more than three things about a person before going out with them. So how do we stay safe and informed when dating in a world that is all about instant gratification, and “no strings attached”? I have put together a list of tips when going on a date that will help you in the long run.
Set clear boundaries before the date. Make it known that you are there to get to know the person, and at the end of the evening you will return home to your OWN home, alone.
- Always be honest and upfront about who you are. If you are meeting someone online or through a mutual friend, do not lie about who you are, what you do, or what you look like.
- At the same time, you do not have to give out all of your information. Allow for the date to be time to get to know each other more, and give yourself the ability to feel comfortable before sharing personal facts. No one needs your birthday, social security, address, or even family history on the first date.
- Set clear boundaries before the date. Make it known that you are there to get to know the person, and at the end of the evening you will return home to your OWN home, alone. Being clear about this in the beginning will keep from having any awkward or uncomfortable conversations with someone, and will also help you to know the person better. If they push your boundaries, they are probably not someone you want to be dating anyhow.
- Tell your friends, family or both where you are going and who you are going with. If for any reason you are uncomfortable with the situation you are in, you will need someone who knows where you are and can come to your rescue.
- Do not go somewhere you have never been, or where there will be no other people around for your first date. If the other person wants to go somewhere private, suggest another option, if they push for somewhere secluded…red flag. Probably not a good choice for dates.
- Do not rely on the other person for your only way home. If you are in a situation you want out of, but they are your only way home, then you will feel even more uncomfortable and trapped. Be prepared to have another way home, in case things don’t go the way you hoped.
- Bring your own money, even if you think the other person will pay. Always have some cash on you so if you need to politely pay for your half and leave you have the option to. Don’t feel obligated to stay somewhere you don’t feel right about.
- Lastly, use good judgement. Talk to a parent or friend about the date prior to going, and if anyone thinks something sounds off about the date, don’t take a chance with your safety!
